If you don't want to have something you post addressed, then you shouldn't post it. This is a publicly accessed forum and replying to each other is what is done here.
When I posted about my friend who had committed suicide and then asked you to keep any thoughts about my post to yourself I had two thoughts about the way you might respond to it.
1) was the way you did respond.
2) was with a smart aleck remark aimed at my friend being gay and/or having committed suicide.
The first one strikes the right note in that posting and replying is what the forum is about, however there are exceptions that occur. It has been seen more than once that if a post doesn't meet your approval (for whatever reasons, logical or not) it gets deleted. I have even seen other peoples posts that you have edited. I saw them both before and after the edits and couldn't comprehend why the editing took place.
The second reason I cited just above came as a result of having seen over the last two years your comments about both blacks and gays which were "cloaked" in "humor". Quite often you say "just kidding" at the end of your statements. There is a fairly prevalent thought that when someone says something there is at least a "degree" of actual intent contained no matter what "just kidding" kind of statement might be attached.
If there is one Constitutional amendment I admire it is that of free speech, but I do realize that gatekeepers tamper with it on a regular basis in all kinds of media. Doesn't mean I have to sanction it.
My request that you not comment on my gay friend's suicide was aimed at not having a stranger make any kind of disparaging remark either about suicide or sexual proclivity, but your response gave me an opportunity to speak in a broader sense, and for that, well, thanks!